Relationship – Rachael's Diary

A love story

raingo — Fri, 24 Aug 2018 06:58:51 +0000

Max, Head of an international company, British
Rebecca, entrepreneur, from Hong Kong

Max: ENTJ, extrovert, intuitive, Logical, Judging
Rebecca: ESFP, Extrovert, Observant, Feeling, Prospecting

I was introduced to Rachael and Smith a few weeks ago by a friend who had used their service and recommended it. I have a very busy job & didn’t devote much time to self-grooming. I wasn’t overweight, but I wasn’t fit either. Rachael gave me some great tips about fitness, grooming, dating and encouraged me to quit smoking and join a gym.

I went on a date and was instantly attracted to my partner. As I got to know her, I found that she was both very clever and very funny, which I find irresistible in a lady. I couldn’t believe that I had met someone who combines brains and beauty in such an incredible way. By our third date, I had fallen profoundly and irrevocably in love.

In the past, I was always too busy to devote sufficient time to make a relationship work, but in the past few weeks, we have seen each other every day, which proves that if you really want to be with someone you will find a way or make a way.

We love doing the same things – eating out, being with friends, playing pool, movies, pub quiz & shopping for books are just some of the things we have done together. She makes me the very best person I can be and I will love her forever.

I love general knowledge and challenges – I have participated in a pub quiz pretty much every week for the last 6 years. Now I get a new company to do thing I like to do.

After seeing each other for 22 days in a row, we decided to shop for an engagement ring, throw an engagement party for all of our friends, and plan our wedding and honeymoon.

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Meaning of a ring

Rachael — Thu, 21 Jun 2018 02:49:41 +0000

There are four types of ring: the Promise Ring, the Engagement Ring, the Marriage Ring and the Infinity (Eternity) Ring.

A promise ring, also names the pre-engagement ring, is a symbol of commitment and monogamy. It’s not necessary a diamond.

An engagement ring, since De Beer advertised that a “Diamond is forever”, should cost men two to three months’ salary.

A marriage ring is to tell the world that we are prepared to spend the rest of our lives together. This shiny gold thing often helps many men stay out of trouble. When other women see the ring, they target somewhere else. It is often a symbol that he or she is taken.

An Infinity ring is given during significant anniversary, meaning that love is eternal.

There are rich couples who wear a simple ring. Or Happily married woman never have a huge stone on their finger. Often, when a guy marries a woman, he cannot afford a big stone so he offers a small one. As time goes by, he may be able to afford a bigger and better one if you are being a good and supportive wife.

The art of proposing:

Gentleman, when you propose, put the ring in the box, and ask will you marry me? If she says yes, put the ring on her finger. It’s a ring that she will wear for the rest of her life. Give her the receipt and tell her she can change to whatever design she likes, or you can just give it to her. As a gift. As a courtesy, if you are not going to marry him, you should return the ring. Wait for a week or two and politely return in person. Never say the stone is too small or that you don’t like that brand. If you are in love for a long time, he can always give you another one.

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Keep the sparks flying in a stable relationship

raingo — Tue, 21 Nov 2017 09:08:33 +0000

My boyfriend is very handsome and many women approach him, but he is also worried about the many guys that approach me. He says it’s a compliment because if I were not intelligent and attractive to other men, he would not be with me. The point is: Your partner must be good enough that he/she will attract other people, but at the same time, you must keep yourself competitive and prove your value in the relationship.

Holding on to your loved one is like preparing for battle: you cannot wait until something has happened. Men go off track mainly because of the excitement of being with someone new. You have to keep the relationship fresh and exciting as well. Sometimes, when everything is going well, we have a tendency to fall into a rhythm, a habit of doing the same things over and over. You have to fight against this mindset by staying fit, dressing well, and looking after yourself. If you fail at this, your man may already have half a foot out the door.

If the unthinkable does happen, stay calm. Acting crazy will only drive your man further away. Go to the gym, learn something new; he will be curious why you are keeping so busy. Bring his attention back to you, but also prepare to move on. Love should be exclusive, loyal, and committed. There are lots of great guys out there.

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How to play pool and learn to be a good wife

Rachael — Wed, 27 Sep 2017 08:21:30 +0000

Rachael & Smith recently created Pool Networking events to increase opportunities for interaction and socializing for clients who sign up as part of the service.

In this group, potential matches meet regularly to practice. One night, I was playing with my client Evelyn when two mature western guys in their early 50s came up and asked to join us for mixed doubles. After a few shots, I asked one of the guys, “Why aren’t you teaching your partner Evelyn?” He said she wasn’t listening to him. Evelyn is a businesswoman and knows how to play, so it’s difficult for her to just follow advice.

I suggested to Evelyn to try listening more to your partner, even if you disagree, and see what happens. Then the guy said, “You sound like you’re teaching her how to be a wife.”

I said, “Partnership is not just about telling the other person what to do. It’s about communication, and making an effort to avoid misunderstandings.”

In any game, teamwork is tantamount to success and enjoyment. It is important to make your partner feel that his/her efforts are appreciated. If it’s your life partner and you cannot agree on the small things, it’s going to be a long, arduous journey.

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Why is Disney so successful?

Rachael — Wed, 07 Jun 2017 08:55:59 +0000

From time to time, they bring together a team with different types of personalities for brainstorming.The N-type (intuitive) always comes up many different ideas. The S-type (observant) is good at cherry picking the best plans and executing them. That’s why Disney products usually sell well.

In a relationship, if you are the N-type, you always come up with wild ideas, but not all of them will work. The S-type can offer much-needed balance by offering more practical solutions, especially when planning holidays.

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The Art of Letting Go

Rachael — Thu, 25 May 2017 03:33:14 +0000

The 20/80 Theory

If you are a senior executive, you should spend 80% of your time with the top 20% of your most valuable clients. Walk away from anyone who costs more of your time but pays less. People who truly value your profession would not mind paying more.

The same theory applies to relationships. Let go of your ex. Let go of someone who is not officially divorced. Let go of someone who only sees you on weekdays. Let go of people who do not make you a better person. Let go of someone who makes you sad. Because someone better is out there waiting.

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Bowen family theory

Rachael — Mon, 22 May 2017 09:21:03 +0000

Bowen family theory includes an in-depth theory about building family relationships. Within the theory, there’s a section that I think can benefit many of us so I have made a simple diagram to illustrate the point.

Due to our regular busy work day, we spend most of our time at the office. When we have a minute to spare, we think spending time with our other half equals to building a good relationship. But according to Bowen Family Theory, it is not necessarily correct:

(Left diagram): If we spend most of our time in a relationship and less on self-development, when bumps happen, it will be harder for us to handle the situation.

(Right Diagram): On the other hand, if we spend more time to develop ourselves, eg, taking classes, building a social network, doing exercises, when negative things happen, we can absorb the shock and overcome these obstacles with greater ease.

A relationship is “effort spent on feeling secure for the relationship”

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What makes a happy, healthy relationship?

fiona woo — Mon, 22 May 2017 04:11:59 +0000

We must be complete in order to have a healthy relationship. We need to have a well-rounded self that includes family, hobbies, various activities and interests, a healthy lifestyle, friends, and possess personal traits such as confidence and self-respect.

If you look at the many couples who remain in a happy relationship, they are, individually, a generally happy person. They are satisfied with who they are, individually, and they choose to share of themselves with a partner. Those who miss a chunk of wholesomeness and can’t figure out what is lacking might believe that if they find someone who can make then happy, by completing them and filling their inner gaps, then they will be happy. This expectation is the biggest killer in a relationship. Because our confidence and wellbeing spring from within.

When we meet someone and fall in love, only a part of our life and our partner’s overlap, perhaps 20-30% of it. We need to maintain a space to cultivate interests outside the relationship so as to cultivate ourselves.

If we are totally preoccupied and interested in the other at the expense of all other interests and relationships, for example with friends and relatives, disaster will ensue. The partner will feel a huge responsibility to fill all your needs. It becomes exhausting!

Many believe that to form a happy relationship, you need to complete each other. As if you can only be complete with a partner! Not true! A happy relationship is a meeting of two complete, that is, secure, persons.

How to spot that special person? Here are a few tips:

If he/she get upset at small things, and it becomes noticeable very quickly, say within a short period such as 3 months from the first meeting, it is a red flag. When someone generally smiles and appears to be very close to their family, go for it!
Whenever you notice some of your dating interest or love’s habits, the last thing you want to is to change that person. Never do that. Appreciate the person in their fullness, for who they are.
H.M Harwood once said,“Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably they are both disappointed.”
If you are career driven, it is extremely important that you find a supportive partner who has a similar understanding of life and of your values and brings positive energy into your daily life. That’s why most successful people are carefree in their 20s, find love and build a family around the age of 25-35, and then build wealth. Be sure that your values and aspirations with regard to career and family match the other and that he/she will be supportive of your aspirations!

A happy partner and a healthy relationship will support your satisfaction with life and success.

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At what point should I stop seeing other people and make the relationship exclusive?

Rachael — Tue, 18 Apr 2017 06:44:27 +0000

At what point should I stop seeing other people and make the relationship exclusive?

On the first date, don’t talk about commitment, marriage or kids. Just focus on enjoying the excitement of a first date and getting to know someone new. If you decide that you want to invest in a second date, you can explore more common interests and do things together.

At this point you want to keep meeting people and keep your options open. Take some time to get to know the other person and for them to get to know us. Don’t rush into an exclusive relationship with someone you barely know. You could end up with someone who is not quite a shipwreck, but also not shipshape enough to spend your life together.

When you find yourself seeing the same person more than once a week for several weeks, then you can look at your ideal partner list and see how many boxes you can tick off. It’s important that you write it down, even if it changes over time.

The chemistry that we all yearn for doesn’t always happen on a first date. Sometimes it takes weeks, or months. However, if either one of you is not ready to make plans for a future together, then it’s time to move on. Be patient. Focus on taking something positive away from each relationship and becoming a better person.

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